For both brides who have large circles of friends and for those brides who have only a few close friends, the dilemma and decision of how many bridesmaids you should have on your wedding day is one of the first decisions in the wedding planning calendar that causes many brides much stress and angst!
For brides with smaller circles, the decision is easy and causes no angst, providing the groom is also in agreeance with the number. If the groom has more friends who he wants as groomsmen, the bride with a small circle can get stressed trying to fill the numbers to partner up the bridesmaids and groomsmen.
For the bride with a large circle of friends, the decision is one that can cause issues in friendships, where do you draw the line on how many girlfriends to include in your bridal party?
Our formula and advice we give brides who are struggling with the decision are based on objectivity. The two factors we recommend brides look at are the wedding budget and the size of the wedding.
You need to factor into your budget who is paying for the bridesmaid robes and gifts and hair and makeup. If you are, then you need to work out how much it costs to have one bridesmaid and then work how many your budget can handle. On average, brides spend around $500 per bridesmaid, so that quickly can deter from wanting five bridesmaids when you are looking at an additional $2500!
Your bridesmaid and bridal party ratio should reflect that of how many guests you are inviting. For example, if you are having an intimate wedding with 50 guests, turning up with 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen can look out of place considering the bridal party is one-fifth of the guests! On the other hand, a wedding with 250 guests, doesn’t look out of place with a large bridal party. Using your number of weddings guests is a nice quick and easy and objective guide to keeping your wedding in proportion.
Using these two measures can provide a really easy, objective and non-emotional way of deciding how many people to have in your bridal party.
However, like everything with weddings, it is your day and all the decisions are for you to make. You shouldn’t be swayed by opinions or traditions if you have your heart set on something. There is no right or wrong way of doing things, and you are the one that has to be happy and content with the outcome.