Ten years ago the thought of even contemplating not having wedding flowers would have resulted in shocked gasps of dismay for such a traditional piece of the wedding day, however as weddings get more modern and actually aligned with the wants and needs of brides and grooms, many people are starting to turn their backs on the traditional requirement of flower bouquets.
The shift is occurring for a number of reasons. Firstly, flowers are expensive. And wedding floral packages can get up to the tens of thousands of dollars, especially if you are also using them as decoration and table pieces. For many budget-conscious brides and grooms, spending this kind of money is just not an option for a piece of the wedding that essentially dies and is thrown in the bin (barring a few kept to be dried or stored for sentimental reasons).
Another reason brides are bucking the bouquets is that traditions are changing and your wedding is such an expression of your style and love, that many of the traditional wedding events seem out of place and are questioned by many modern brides. Traditionally, back in the 15th/16th century, the wedding bouquet was held by the bride to ward off evil spirits (often containing herbs and garlic alongside the flowers) because, well personal hygiene wasn’t amazing back then so the smell of flowers masked the bride’s personal aroma. Delightful!
While the tradition of flowers is still strong and alive for most weddings these days, stinky brides aren’t one of the reasons! They are mainly still favored just because they are beautiful to look at, can help tie a wedding colour scheme together and because they prevent the awkward ‘what do I do with my hands’ conundrum facing many brides walking down that long aisle!
Do you need them for your wedding? Well, that is a personal choice and only a decision you can make, but some alternatives are artificial arrangements, which you can keep forever, felt floral arrangements or rustic branches and flowers from the location of your big day (works especially well if you are having an outdoor rustic vintage wedding).
If flowers are a big part of your day, start planning early and if you have your heart set on a certain type that has caught your eye on Pinterest, then research early on. Many flowers are seasonal and depending on the time of year of your wedding, they may not be available. Also, decide what part flowers are going to play in your big day and set a budget and stick to it. It is easy to get caught up in the planning and the ideal reception covered in flower garlands and arches decorated in your chosen florals underneath which you say ‘I do’ however this doesn’t come cheap! Leave enough time that you can find substitutes if your floral wedding dreams are turning into a small mortgage! Things like feathers and cheaper fillers like ferns are making a comeback and can provide your floral dreams at a fraction of the cost.
As with other parts of the wedding, don’t let the flowers stress you! After all, as long as you and your partner are there together on the day declaring love and spending the rest of your life together, your choice (or not) of flowers really doesn’t matter in the big scheme of things.